Bringing up a sensitive issue like being gay and there seems to be a common denominator floating around, ”Oh, their fierce and fabulous, gays can help you find the right lipstick!” Now, as much as I love being called fabulous and fierce; actually, I don’t really know what being fierce is–I can’t help you pick a lipstick; I can’t even pick out chapstick, much less tell you what color you should be schmearing on your lips. The world is finally learning to celebrate gays but only one type of gay, the “in gay that’s out”. So it’s time for the re-launching of GAY!
There are several types of gays in our rainbow (9 to be exact), and depending of the type of gay your gay is–you might have to accept that lipstick color selection is not one of his traits found in his DNA. I know some of my exes were not fashionably sensitive, and if you allowed them to style you–you’d end up looking like an extra in Tina Turner’s Thunder Dome video. Not a cute look, especially since gladiator sandals are so last year. So it’s time for all of us to rise up and celebrate the gay next to you but only after you find out what his strengths are, what are some of his likes/dislikes, or discover what his interests consists of, so you can celebrate him and his true self–not for the gay you want him to be.
Whether he’s a Nerd/Geek Gay, a Family Gay, an Old-Queen Gay, a Zen Gay, a Professional Gay, or one of the other 4 gay types–they all deserve to be celebrated because the light they shine in your life will remain bright, constant and readily available for you during your darkest moments. A Family Gay will know the best times to hit Target and not get mauled by the crowds, while a Zen Gay can offer tips on balancing your life and helping out the environment and the ever-so-naughty Old-Queen Gay will dispense the daily scoop on your next-door neighbor tragic marriage.
The next time you see a gay, don’t snap your fingers at him and say, “Girl, I’m having a fashion emergency, I need help!” because number one, not all gays like to be called girl but number two, he might have you looking like a cross between Pipi Long Stocking and an epileptic peacock–which is basically the Fergie look. We gays are great listeners, can provide insight on any topic other than fashion (relationships, finance, cooking, maintenance, career, spirituality, love) it’s not just hand bags and conversations on “how to get your bangs cut”. It’s time we re-launch gay and put all our diverse flavors out there to be celebrated. And please, don’t contact me for anything else than a great guacamole recipe, cause child, I’m not that type of Gay!
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What is the biggest pressure you feel being in the GAY Community?
I asked some of my Gay Friends this Question and They Confidently answered as if they were in a Miss Universe Pageant:
“I will start out by saying that I’m proud that I am gay and I never made the choice to be gay. We have a social expectation dictated us by the society we must live in. I have been discriminated against, rejected and even pressured by my own family.
I wish that people would set aside their biases, stereotypes or religious beliefs to understand our perspective and inner emotions. Any individual want to live their life to their liking. I believe that no individual want someone telling them how to live their life. I want to impart by saying that I am glad that we are unique in our own way. “Let us embrace our differences.” – JONAS of Elite Circle of Men | Smart Coven
“The biggest pressure of being gay is that your parents are expecting a child from you and getting married to the opposite sex for security and financial reasons…=) When I opened up to my mom last April 2011, I told her that I can take care of myself, RAIN and I are going to settle down for good and the best of all, THEY (my parents), raised THE BEST CHILD they ever had!! I’m proud of my mom and dad and I’m proud of what I’ve become…=)” –ELMO of Elite Circle of Men | Smart Coven
“Accepting the fact that we are gay, is the biggest pressure in gay lives. Especially, those who are not yet ready to “come out from the closet ” and admit to themselves that they are gays and for those who are afraid to be criticized by other people for being gay. We should accept, love and respect ourselves as who we are without hesitations, in order for us to become a better person. Being in the gay community, gave me a lot of strength and courage to be who and what I am now. It also reminds me every single day that I am not alone, I am not different and I know that I am a good citizen that can lead, and a good example for other people, a loyal and faithful husband of ELMO and also with my family to be proud of. =)” – RAIN of Elite Circle of Men | Smart Coven
“The biggest pressure in being a gay is the expectation of all the people that surrounds you, i believe that we cant please everybody but the fact that we are not yet accepted within the normal community, is hard for us to gain respect, to be trusted and to be loved, though nowadays some or majority of people are already opened their eyes in this kind of reality, they’ve realized that we “gays” are also a human being, that we are also in need of respects, love and security. Now i cAn proudly say that despite of all the humiliation that others brought to us, we are still “GIVING PEOPLE A LITTLE JOY” in their life. i thank you! :)” – SUE ZUKI of Elite Circle of Men | Smart Coven